Marriage and Therapy: How It Works
"8 and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh.9 What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Mark 10: 8-9
Marriage can be a beautiful journey that two people take on together, but like any journey, it is not always what we thought it might be. Conflict is an inevitable part of any relationship, and marriages are no exception. However, it is how couples handle conflicts that can make or break their relationship. This is where marriage counseling and conflict resolution can play a significant role.
Sometimes it is as simple as a miscommunication, but often that is just the surface. When a partner feels stressed beyond belief, suffers depression, feels betrayed, when resentments pile up, and when both partners feel they are just "ships passing in the night" it is time to look beneath that surface. The pain of life, stress, depression, trauma, abuse, infidelity, and so much more take major tolls on relationships, and our closest relationships are affected the most. To look into another person's eyes and to commit to meeting on the therapist's couch shows that you are both willing to struggle through this together toward healing.
Marriage counseling is a form of therapy that helps couples work through their issues, conflicts, and challenges in their relationship. It provides a safe space for couples to communicate openly and honestly with each other while addressing their concerns and feelings. One of the primary goals of marriage counseling is to improve communication between spouses. Many conflicts arise because of miscommunication or a lack of communication altogether.
Marriage counseling can help couples learn effective communication skills, such as active listening, expressing emotions without blaming or attacking, and validating each other's feelings--even when you don't feel like it--by prioritizing the relationship and the person. When conflicts arise, it is natural for emotions to run high, and couples can quickly become defensive or angry. A marriage counselor can help couples learn how to regulate their emotions and respond rather than react to the other person's concerns.
Marriage counselors also teach couples problem-solving skills that can help them resolve conflicts effectively. This includes identifying the problem, brainstorming solutions, evaluating each option, and agreeing on a course of action. By learning these skills, couples can work through conflicts in a way that is constructive and respectful, rather than damaging to the relationship.
One of the best outcomes to marriage counseling is that it can also provide a fresh perspective on the relationship. Sometimes, couples can get so caught up in their conflicts that they lose sight of the bigger picture. It helps couples to see their relationship from a new perspective, identify their strengths and weaknesses, and develop a plan to move forward together.
When conflicts arise, couples need to be able to work through them in a way that is at once respectful, constructive, and beneficial to the relationship, but still honors the other person's hurts, needs, and struggles. By learning effective communication skills, managing emotions, and problem-solving, couples can overcome their conflicts and build a stronger, healthier relationship that can move forward from even the biggest hurts.
To talk to a therapist, please reach out to The King's Forge Counseling by filling out a contact submission form on our website at www.thekingsforge.com